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The views of song
writer Kate Nash about Selfie has ensued a fresh debate about good
manners versus modern manners.
There are already well defined set of manners
for all occasions. We are taught Table manners, bathroom manners and Bed Room
manners. There are well defined manners for host and guest, children and
elders, for male and females for every activity under the sky.
When net became
popular netiquette were formed, when Social media became popular more rules and
Do's and Don’ts were imposed upon users not only by society but by websites
also. Many accounts were deleted on account of violation of terms and condition,
by many social media websites. All those manners were later enacted by society
so that violators can be prosecuted. It is called the Information Technology
Act 2006, in India.
Other manners were
codified but not enacted, since they were not dangerous to society. If you do
not say Good Morning to your teachers or parents, they could mind it and may
rebuke you, but they can’t compel you to do so by law. If a soldier or
constable does not salute to his superior officer, disciplinary action would be
taken against him.
When any activity
becomes popular and it has some dangerous side effects than people show their
concern and a caution is issued. This is what happened when Kate Nash condemned the selfie taken at
memorial service of Nelson Mandela.
Selfie is now an obsession.
There is nothing wrong with it. A fine way to show self dependence. But
something wrong has also happened. Some people have died while taking a selfie.
They were drowned in a lake or sea, crushed by passing vehicle or fell down
from the roof. Some young teenage girls were blackmailed by ex boyfriends for
private clicks. Society needs security. They want to find out a way to stop the
misuse of selfie. Many countries have imposed the ban on use of selfie stick. It is a metal rod which can take selfie from forty inch distance. Mumbai Police does not find it appropriate that unmarried men and women should take selfie. They think that their closeness to "fit in" the picture is immoral.Belfie or bottom selfie has been banned by many social media websites. Instagram has banned women buttock selfie or belfie causing some uproar in feminist. What would be next, is anybody's guess.
The celebs have
played a great role in promoting the craze of selfie. Prince Charles did it
with 12 years old school girl and seasoned politician like Barak and Modi also
do it frequently.
Selfie is Narcissistic
phenomenon. It shows extreme selfishness and self centeredness of society.
There is no doubt in last few years we have become that.
W.B.Yeats in his poem “The Second Coming” says
The best lack all conviction,
while the worst
Are full of
T.S.Eliot in his long poem The wasteland has depicted a vast panorama of
futility and anarchy, for which Yeats says “Things fall apart, the centre cannot
hold”. The present age of emotional sterility, void due to lack of purpose and
fear due to advancement in technology is shaping our future. The Third Wave or
The Second Coming is expected. Dangerous Selfies are killing people every day. In the picture below all of them died because one lost his balance while getting up and pulled others. Sa
In another similar incident at Murud Beach 14 students drowned when a big wave carried them away while taking Selfie.
Why Good Manners?
Does manners makes a man ? Or man makes manners?. We created God who created
us. How simple? Egg or Hen?
OK, take selfie,
but be little less selfish. Think of less privileged from you and don’t take
selfie with them, if really you don't have any compassion for them.