The art of wooing is never
rusty
Those who are in habit to take
their wives as granted are offended when they have to cajole and woo them like an
infatuated school boy by flowers, cards, dinners and sweet talk to obtain
something which once they thought was rightfully theirs.
Look at the whole Animal
Kingdom. Do you find any other animal doing heinous crime of rape except man? Every
time, every male has to woo the female to obtain a favor.
Marriage is one of the most
important institutions created by society which is eroded day by day as human
intellect and wisdom is evolving. We are able to perceive and changed the law
accordingly. How far we can go socially and legally to control a
relationship between two grown up individuals
which begins and ends on the same bed every night.
Marriage is for woman the
commonest mode of livelihood, and the total amount of undesired sex endured by
women is probably greater in marriage than in prostitution. ~Bertrand
Russell, Marriage and Morals.
Any act that affects two
individuals physically, mentally or socially and is nonconsensual is an offense.
Colonial countries were governed
by laws enacted by their master countries. They framed different laws for each
colony depending upon their backwardness. Unfortunately, those countries are still unable to revise their
laws in parity with advance countries. The politicians are publicly
giving statements, "It is considered that the concept of marital rape, as
understood internationally, cannot be suitably applied in the Indian
context."
Now is the time when human civilization must consider to make uniform laws
applicable all over the world, irrespective of geographical boundaries, cultural
heritage, religion and dogmas.
Any crime is a crime against humanity and human values are same all over the
world.
In the US some states have separate and lesser punishment for marital rapes
(though thankfully all states have accepted it as a crime), are also examples
of social hypocrisy. If at all different,
marital rape is more severe crime than other rapes since it is also breach of
trust between two individuals.
The Indian Law is still
struggling to define the extent of assault & parts of anatomy of the female
organ, while whole civilization has taken a leap and is unanimous about it.
Literature has repeatedly pointed out that marital rape is done by husbands
who suffer from some type of deficiency, inferiority or complex that they want
to compensate.
Here is famous paragraph:
“He swung her off her feet
into his arms and started up the stairs. Her head was crushed against his chest
and she heard the hard hammering of his heart beneath her ears. He hurt her and
she cried out, muffled, frightened. Up the stairs he went in the utter
darkness, up, up, and she was wild with fear. He was a mad stranger and this
was a black darkness she did not know, darker than death. He was like death,
carrying her away in arms that hurt. She screamed, stifled against him and he
stopped suddenly on the landing and, turning her swiftly in his arms, bent over
and kissed her with a savagery and a completeness that wiped out everything
from her mind but the dark into which she was sinking and the lips on hers. He
was shaking, as though he stood in a strong wind, and his lips, traveling from
her mouth downward to where the wrapper had fallen from her body, fell on her
soft flesh…. She tried to speak and his mouth was over hers again. When she
awoke the next morning, he was gone.… The man who had carried her up the dark
stairs was a stranger of whose existence she had not dreamed. He had humbled
her, hurt her, used her brutally through a wild mad night and she had gloried
in it…. Rhett loved her! At least, he said he loved her and how could she doubt
it now?”
— Margaret Mitchell, Gone
With the Wind( New York: Scribner, 2011): 871.
Ponder over it, till next
time you read about "Ten ways to avoid marital rape."
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